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Barbara C Lopez's avatar

What a gift, thank you for sharing it!

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Wesley Vander Lugt's avatar

Beautifully written. "Letting go isn't erasing the past. It's integrating it." Thank you for this wisdom.

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Life, Death, and Comedy's avatar

Thank you.

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Roxanne's avatar

Thank you for writing this. Nine years ago my mother died, mercifully. I had been saying goodbye to her for 5 years before that, the long goodbye that was dementia. Our relationship was complicated, one the “Untier of Knots” holds with gentleness and compassion in me. Centering prayer / contemplative practice truly support the releasing for me you describe. I am curious to know your thoughts on Francis Weller’s work with ritual and grief -?

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Life, Death, and Comedy's avatar

Thank you for reading it! Contemplative practice is what held me up during this time as well. I don't know Francis Weller's work as much as I'd like to, but I agree with the main premise- That grief work is soul work, that often the path to transformation is a path of descent, and that community and developing ritual is important. Speaking of grief - seeing you and Wes on here really makes me miss Charlotte!

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